You can make a difference in your child’s life by training your child’s brain so that your child will successfully function at social, emotional, and academic levels. Here is how:
1. DON’ T BE AFRAID TO SET THE LIMITS
Kids need limits to grow happy and healthy! Make a schedule for meal times, sleep times, and technology time. Think of what is GOOD for them -not what they WANT or DON’T WANT. You need to be creative to make them do what is good for them because, most of the time, that is the exact opposite of what they want to do. Kids need breakfast and nutritious food. They need to spend time outdoor and go to bed at a consistent time in order to come to school available for learning the next day! Convert things that they don’t like doing into fun, emotionally stimulating games. They are going to thank you for all this later in life.
2. LIMIT TECHNOLOGY, AND RE-CONNECT WITH YOUR KIDS EMOTIONALLY
Keep technology at bay from your kids. Instead of pleasing them by handing over electronic gadgets to them, surprise them with flowers, share a smile, tickle them, put a love note in their backpack or under their pillow. You may also surprise them by taking them out for lunch on a school day, dance together, crawl together, and have pillow fights. Have family dinners, board game nights, go biking, go to outdoor walks with a flashlight in the evening.
3. TRAIN DELAYED GRATIFICATION
Make them wait!!! It is ok to have “I am bored” time, which is the first step to creativity. Gradually increase the waiting time between “I want” and “I get”. Avoid technology use in cars and restaurants, and instead teach them waiting while talking and playing games. Limit constant snacking too.
4. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO MONOTONOUS WORK
Monotonous mundane work is the foundation for future “workability”. Kids should be engaged in day-to-day work such as folding laundry, tidying up toys, hanging clothes, unpacking groceries, setting the table, making lunch, unpacking their lunch box, and making their bed. Be creative. Initially make it stimulating and fun so that their brain associates it with something positive.
5. TEACH SOCIAL SKILLS
Teach your kids to taking turns, sharing, losing/winning, compromising, complimenting others, using “please and thank you”. These social skills will lay the basic foundation of the real life and also develop their social skills.
From my experience as a teacher the kids change the moment parents change their perspective on parenting. Help your kids succeed in life by training and strengthening their brain.